So I have been slowly realizing lately that I have not been living my life. I mean I am living and doing things but I am NOT by any means living my life to the fullest. I see other people around me taking advantage of the fact that they can do pretty much anything they want to because they don;t have to worry about anything except classes and grades. Lots of my friends do tons of things on a whim and have wild, fun adventures. While they are living their lives to the fullest, I'm sitting in my dorm room watching TV and playing MyTown on facebook. I am not taking full advantage of being free of "adult" responsibilities. My brother once told me that college is a blink and to take full advantage of it while you can...I have epically failed doing so.
Next year, my junior year of college, I vow to try to get out more and try to get involved on campus. I need to get out there and experience as many different things as I can before *poof* its over. If anyone has any suggestions as to what I can or should do to live my life to the fullest while Im still in college please don't hesitate to let me know!
Saturday, May 1, 2010
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Where has all the Self Control Gone?!?!
While laying in bed trying to fall asleep a thought hit me...how has it become the socially unacceptable thing to wait to be married to have sex and how sad it is that a lot of people feel that way about waiting to have sex and abstinence in general? i just want to tell the ladies to cover their cooches and cross their legs and guys to keep their hands and pee-pee's to themselves. lets practice some self control. its not that hard. i promise.
While my wording toward the end of the previous paragraph is, for some, a bit on the crude side for a friendly neighborhood blog, it fully describes my feelings about what i have seen around me. People these days give into their humanly wants and desires all to often and in all aspects of their lives. How often do we pig out and eat until we feel like we are going to pop like a tick? How often do we buy that shirt even when we know we have 7 shirts like it at home that we dont even wear? How often do we lash out at people for making us angry? If we just had a little bit of self control we could keep all of these things in check. But, we are taught to "do what makes us feel good" and "If it feels good, do it."
Im sorry to burst your bubble, and mine too, but as humans, we were made to obey the rules about self control...I think we all know the Bible story of Adam and Eve..'nough said. Unfortunately, like Adam and Eve, we have fallen victim to lack of self control. God wants us to have self control though. Sometimes Im not exactly sure why or how it will benefit us but trust me, if you live without self control I bet ya that you will an unsatisfying life.
From my observations of the college student, much of their "drama" comes from a lack of self control. For instance, a lack in controlling how much one drinks at a party results in doing things one cant remember doing and sometimes even "man" or "woman" stealing. (for those of you who arent aware of what that is let me let you in on the lingo...its when someone gets drunk and makes out with someone else's boyfriend/girlfriend who, most likely, is also drunk) You can end up making a lot of enemies and drama that could have been avoided if you had only 3 drinks instead of 8. Another area in which some college students lack self control is lust. I think its a little bit ridiculous when from your dorm room you can hear a girl say "i got my period!" and all of her friends reply with "YAY!" If the girl had just kept her lust in check and used a little self control she wouldnt have to go through the stress, anxiety and drama of possibly being pregnant. How many times to people regret drinking that much and regret sleeping with so and so? Im afraid it happens all to often.
Now you might be wondering why i am practically lecturing you on self control if i myself have issues with self control sometimes. The thing is i am aware that i need to keep myself in check. I know that i cant always do what i want. i have boundaries for myself about how far i "go" with my boyfriend and if i drink, how much i drink. With a little bit of self control i get to live a regretless and dramaless life. Thats not something many people can say. even though at the time when you are lacking self control and you think you are having fun and "living life," most of the time you end up with a big mess on your hands and you wish you could go back and redo things.
Personally, i would rather practice self control now instead of regretting my past. If that isnt enough for you to rethink how much self control you practice, i dont know what else i can say to change your mind. But then again, im not writing this to change your mind. im writing this to make you think a little. this might be a little cliche and something that your parents might have told you but "think before you act." take a second to control yourself in every situation that will, more than likely, end up in hurt and regret if you dont take that second to stop and think.
And yes, you can have fun, laugh, and live a full life while practicing self control. im a good example of it. and yes, i do have my slip ups. heck! i'm a human, too :)
While my wording toward the end of the previous paragraph is, for some, a bit on the crude side for a friendly neighborhood blog, it fully describes my feelings about what i have seen around me. People these days give into their humanly wants and desires all to often and in all aspects of their lives. How often do we pig out and eat until we feel like we are going to pop like a tick? How often do we buy that shirt even when we know we have 7 shirts like it at home that we dont even wear? How often do we lash out at people for making us angry? If we just had a little bit of self control we could keep all of these things in check. But, we are taught to "do what makes us feel good" and "If it feels good, do it."
Im sorry to burst your bubble, and mine too, but as humans, we were made to obey the rules about self control...I think we all know the Bible story of Adam and Eve..'nough said. Unfortunately, like Adam and Eve, we have fallen victim to lack of self control. God wants us to have self control though. Sometimes Im not exactly sure why or how it will benefit us but trust me, if you live without self control I bet ya that you will an unsatisfying life.
From my observations of the college student, much of their "drama" comes from a lack of self control. For instance, a lack in controlling how much one drinks at a party results in doing things one cant remember doing and sometimes even "man" or "woman" stealing. (for those of you who arent aware of what that is let me let you in on the lingo...its when someone gets drunk and makes out with someone else's boyfriend/girlfriend who, most likely, is also drunk) You can end up making a lot of enemies and drama that could have been avoided if you had only 3 drinks instead of 8. Another area in which some college students lack self control is lust. I think its a little bit ridiculous when from your dorm room you can hear a girl say "i got my period!" and all of her friends reply with "YAY!" If the girl had just kept her lust in check and used a little self control she wouldnt have to go through the stress, anxiety and drama of possibly being pregnant. How many times to people regret drinking that much and regret sleeping with so and so? Im afraid it happens all to often.
Now you might be wondering why i am practically lecturing you on self control if i myself have issues with self control sometimes. The thing is i am aware that i need to keep myself in check. I know that i cant always do what i want. i have boundaries for myself about how far i "go" with my boyfriend and if i drink, how much i drink. With a little bit of self control i get to live a regretless and dramaless life. Thats not something many people can say. even though at the time when you are lacking self control and you think you are having fun and "living life," most of the time you end up with a big mess on your hands and you wish you could go back and redo things.
Personally, i would rather practice self control now instead of regretting my past. If that isnt enough for you to rethink how much self control you practice, i dont know what else i can say to change your mind. But then again, im not writing this to change your mind. im writing this to make you think a little. this might be a little cliche and something that your parents might have told you but "think before you act." take a second to control yourself in every situation that will, more than likely, end up in hurt and regret if you dont take that second to stop and think.
And yes, you can have fun, laugh, and live a full life while practicing self control. im a good example of it. and yes, i do have my slip ups. heck! i'm a human, too :)
Monday, February 8, 2010
Make-over!
If you are a regular "viewer" of my blog, which im sure there arent many of, then you can tell that I have given my layout a make-over.
Make-0vers are typically though of as being a physical thing. When Tyra takes in new "top models" she gives them a hair and makeup make-over. She takes their tired, old, frumpy look and gives them a fresh, new look.
Make-overs, however, arent purely physical. I myself have been trying not only to make-over my outsides but my insides as well.
For the past month and a half at 630 a.m. you can find me at the gym workin' on my fitness. This is the outside part of my personal make-over. I have been working on losing the weight that I had gained from being lazy over the summer and last semester. I also chose to make-over my outsides to feel better on the inside. Before I started to work out on a daily basis I was a lazy fool watchin' tons of junk TV and doing nothing productive. Since I have been going to the gym, I find myself being more apt to doing my homework on time and sometimes even ahead of time. It wakes me up for the day and i am a happier person. Working out has also changed my thoughts about working out. Before I couldnt stand the thought of getting up at 630 am to go hurt and sweat, now I cant wait to do it! I actually look forward to making myself healthy on the outside. Its become a part of my daily routine that I couldnt live without. Eating healthy has also become part of my daily routine. Instead of going for the fries and cookies at dinner I head for the salad bar. Of course I cant go a week without eating some sort of fatty food, I am a human after all but I tend to keep those kinds of foods at a minimum. but dang they are soooo yummy!
(Now, I understand that working out isnt for everyone and people love their fast food so dont think that this is a post about going out and supporting your local gym. I could care less about that. But I do think its important to take care of your body and to feel good about yourself. (this is also not a post on self-esteem, either))
Conclusion
Make-0vers are typically though of as being a physical thing. When Tyra takes in new "top models" she gives them a hair and makeup make-over. She takes their tired, old, frumpy look and gives them a fresh, new look.
Make-overs, however, arent purely physical. I myself have been trying not only to make-over my outsides but my insides as well.
Outsides
(Now, I understand that working out isnt for everyone and people love their fast food so dont think that this is a post about going out and supporting your local gym. I could care less about that. But I do think its important to take care of your body and to feel good about yourself. (this is also not a post on self-esteem, either))
Insides
The other half of my make-over had been on the inside of my body. Now I'm not talking about having big muscles or healthy organs, the insides that I'm refering to is my soul. (Now i have been a little lax on this part lately as the new semester has begun but Im hoping to get back on track with it ASAP) Earlier, when I talked about being lazy not only did I mean that I had become a couch tater but I also meant that I had become lazy with my faith. Honestly, I have been lacking in the faith department for a few years now. Its only been jsut recently that I have mounted back on the horse again (I was never really off the horse, I love me my Jesus,but my body was just half on half off). A part of what got me back on the horse was my "college church's" new preacher. Dont get me wrong, their old preacher was really nice and O.K. but the new one. WOW. I have never seen a man cry while talking about Jesus' crucifixion (sp?). Every Sunday he delivers a message that touches right on to what has been bugging me all week. Its like he writes the sermons with my life in mind. I actually take notes on the important things he says.
I also have changed my lifestyle. I have tried to listen to a little more David Crowder and less Dave Matthews. I have tried to limit myself to what I watch 0n TV. Instead of the Jersey Shore, I watch iCarly. Taking those things out of my life has had an impact. I dont curse as much and I am more likely to be kind to people. It just goes to show that you are what you watch.
Conclusion
Yeah, physical make-overs are fun and make you feel prettier than before, but a soul make-over changes your whole lifestyle. It changes what you do and how you view the world. But most importanly it changes how you relate to God (I know I didnt really touch on this earlier, it just came to me). By changing your soul you open it up to God. You make it able for Him to come in and change it they way He wants it. Which, I have to keep reminding myself, is the way it should be.
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